Monday, January 14, 2008

Sisters, Sisters . . . there were never such devoted sisters?

So I guess my kids are at that age where they are having a very hard time getting along. I'm not sure if this extremely normal and that in the years to come they will become close friends that love and care for each other immensely or if this is the start of the "sibling rivalry" that lasts till they are old and gray. I remember fighting quite a bit with my sisters growing up. One of them is 4 years younger than me and the other is almost 6 years younger. Now that we are older we get along great; though if I were being honest I would have to say that my youngest sister and I still can butt heads on occasion. But I also know of siblings who never got along as kids and still to this day do not get along. I don't want that for my kids. But I'm not sure how to create a bond between them now that lasts a lifetime. I have two cousins who are sisters that are very, very close in age (10 months apart). They are best friends and for as long as I can remember, they always got along. Even as young girls I don't remember ever hearing them fight. Although, I'm sure they did some. But it seems that they figured out at a young age that sticking together was the best course of action. Sam and Anah on the other hand have two cousins that are the same age as they are and I'm constantly hearing - I wish Katelynn was my sister and not you. Oh yeah, well I wish Madison was MY sister and that I didn't even know YOU! I feel as though I'm at my wits end with trying to get them to get along. Of course, they have their great moments too. And these are the moments that bring smiles to face and sometimes even tears to my eyes and an occasional chuckle from deep within. These are the moments I long for!

One of these moments that produced a chuckled from me happened a couple of days ago as we were headed to school or somewhere. Sister A (the names have been changed to protect the innocent or in this case not so innocent) says to sister B - "Did you brush your teeth this morning?" Sister B's very, very quick reply - "Why are they really colorful?"

4 comments:

Bakatari said...

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Melissa Guay said...

Kim, I'm so glad I'm not alone! My little can't quite verbalize her feelings as well yet but there is a lot of "Hayley was being rude and I don't want to play with her anymore"....the way they treat each other sometimes tears my heart out. Then of course, they do a 180 and are the best of friends!! I get so frustrated with the refereeing....I guess it's hard to force two little people to show love, I just pray it comes SOON! I feel your pain!

Jane Anne said...

Colorful teeth!! That's too funny!! Not too long ago we had some friends visit and after they left the boys were quoting one of the sisters, "So-and-so said she wished she didn't have a sister." It caught me off guard and then I remembering being little with 2 sisters. I know it is hard! Keep praying for them. I will be praying for you and your heart.

Melissa Guay said...

In fact, just recently (I have NO CLUE where she got this from...) the girls were fighting about SOMEthing ridiculous, and Ainsley came down and said, "Hayley is RUINing my LIFE!" I was so shocked I didn't quite know what to do or say. If you find something that works, I'd love to hear it!